Thursday, July 9, 2026

Another update

They ended up taking out the breathing tube the other day and she was on cpap. When my dad and sister were there yesterday, she kept saying she wanted to die. Today she is on something call airvo cannula. The doctor said it’s different than a high flow cannula, that this one has heated air and is humidified. She is at 50% oxygen and her pulse ox is good at 100%.

When I was there earlier today, the plan was for her to get a CT scan later to check her lungs because her most recent xray did not look good. A few days ago, one provider said it was a hematoma near her lower lung and that the blood should be absorbed back into the body. Needless to say, it’s not looking like it is absorbing. The xray in the picture shows her left lung area and all of the white. The picture is reversed so the right side of the picture is actually her left lung. Her left lung should look more like the left side of the picture with all of the black between the ribs. They are trying to figure out if it actually is a hematoma,  fluid or something else there. 

He said if it’s thicker fluid or some mucous,  most the time a person like us can cough that up. She has coughed hard a few times since I got here. If she can’t cough it up, they might not have to open her up completely but they could put a bigger chest tube in. He said it could be a mucous plug that is stuck there. They are giving her the airvo because it has heat and humidity and that could help break up the mucous if that’s what it is. 
She does have some bloody secretions around her mouth and the nurse said that is from the tube being in her throat so long but after talking with the doctor he said it could be her coughing up some of what is in her lungs. The nurse said they have been cleaning her mouth and then brushing her teeth every two hours.  
 
He said they may have to intubate at some point and put a camera down her throat to try to see what’s down there. He said once they find out what it is, worst case scenario would be that they would do the temporary trach but they are trying to do everything else to remedy the situation and that would be the last step.

 Good news is that they had her sit up on the edge of the bed this morning and stand up! The nurse said she did good and wasn’t too unsteady.

The Physician Assistant said he was surprised she did so well sitting up and standing because she has been through hell and hasn’t really had any nutrients. She needs nutrients because she is just getting weeker. The last time they tried to tube feed her, they stuck it down her nose and that’s when she had blood gushing out of her nose that wouldn’t stop. He said her tissue is fibrile(?) because of her rheumatoid arthritis medications and that’s why they had all of the trouble with the blood clotting before. 

I asked the PA if she said she wanted to die today and he said no and that she was in good spirits today. He said a lot of patients say they want to die but don’t really mean it. When I was there this afternoon, she had her eyes closed the whole time and I said Mom it’s Sue, I’m here. We are all rooting for you and want you to come home and the kids and dad miss you. She then shook her head yes. When I left I said I love you mom and dad will visit you tomorrow and she shook her head yes again. I don’t know if she recognized me but I am happy she is responding, even when I was talking very quietly.
 
After typing this all out, the PA called my dad and said he spoke with my mom and explained the whole situation to her. She said she is ok getting the tube placed for the camera and also ok if temporary trach needs to happen. That makes me feel better because at least she knows what is going on and is ok with everything. They are going to be doing the tube with the camera so we will see what that shows. 



Monday, July 6, 2026

Update on Mom



 I have been meaning to update this blog for the past two years but so much has happened that it has been very overwhelming. Right now, I am going to use it to update everyone about my mom’s recovery from heart surgery.

She had heart surgery on June 26,2026 to have a valve replaced. We were hoping they would be able to do the TAVR procedure, where they go through an artery in your groin because the recovery would be much easier. My mom has rheumatoid arthritis and is on a bunch of medications that make her immunocompromised. She also has a bicuspid aortic valve instead of a tricuspid aortic valve. She went almost 74 years without knowing she has a congenital heart defect. Needless to say, her medical condition was too complicated to do the TAVR procedure so they had to open her chest up to repair the valve.

This past week has all been a blur so hopefully I don’t mess up the details. She had the surgery and then afterwards, had trouble keeping her oxygen up. She was on the ventilator, then they switched to bipap. She then developed pneumonia in her right lower lung and eventually was switched back to the ventilator. A few days after the surgery, they did an echo and noticed that the right side of her heart looked small, almost like something was pressing up against it. She had a CT scan and it showed fluid build up around her heart. They had to open her back up again, and suction out all of the fluid and old blood. They did not find a leak when they opened her chest back up.

 She had 4 chest tubes placed and they noticed she was having a good amount of new blood and fluid coming out. Her blood didn’t seem to be clotting so they gave her a bunch of different clotting medicines and blood products including blood transfusions, platelets and plasma. Shout out to everyone who donates blood! Thank you! I appreciate you doing that for people like my mom. 

Also during this time, her kidneys weren’t functioning so they put her on continuous dialysis. 

Her blood pressure and heart rate have been all over the place so they have given her medicine to raise/lower it when needed. She is also in Afib so her heart rhythm is messed up. She also has a temporary pacemaker and if her heart rate dips below 40, it automatically starts. 

At one point her oxygen was at 100% on the vent. That is the scariest thing because there is nothing they can do if she would need more help than that. 

Yesterday(7/5) from 8am until about 2pm, they turned off the vent and she was breathing on her own with only cpap I was told. She and her lungs got tired and they put her back on the vent with some sedation so they could let her body rest and let the vent help her for a while. The Nurse Practioner told me the only way to improve her lungs was for her to use them. She said it’s hard for her to use them because she hasn’t used them in so long but the NP said she did great for hours and that we should be happy about that. 

 The clotting medicines seems to be working and there has been much less drainage from the chest tubes. Today, they took two of the chest tubes out and apparently my mom shook her head, saying that she felt better without them there. She is currently still on the vent and my dad said there are talks about doing a temporary tracheotomy on her. I told my dad and sister that I am against that because that is one more surgery that she would be having where something could go wrong. She has a bad track record of bouncing back after surgery, based on the two surgeries she just had. They just got the blood to start clotting and she was doing ok breathing for while, I don’t know why they want to jump to a trach so quickly, even if it’s only temporary. I know she can’t stay on the ventilator for a long time but they haven’t even tried having her breathe without the tube in. The nurse told me the other day that breathing with the tube in is very hard, that it’s basically like breathing through a straw and you tire out quickly. 

The dialysis team is going to put her in 12 hour dialysis tomorrow instead of continuous to see how she does. The doctors told my dad that when my mom(hopefully) gets out of the hospital, that she will need to go to a rehab facility because she won’t have the strength to do anything by herself and we won’t be able to assist her with everything that she needs. 

I don’t even want to worry about that yet. I just want her to start improving. Hopefully, she will not need the trach. We are not sure what the future holds so please send all your thoughts, prayers and good vibes her way. Thank you!


Monday, February 5, 2024

2023 October, November, December (Reagan's 7th birthday, Christimas)

Still trying to play catch up from last year.....

Reagan is still is scared of going to sleep because she has such bad nightmares. We have tried everything from sound machines, stuffed animals that "breathe" (their chest goes up and down and is supposed to be calming), calming videos on her ipad, trying breathing exercises (breathe in through your nose like smelling a flower, breathe out f your mouth like blowing bubbles), sleeping with all of the lights on and closet doors closed, etc. We have finally resorted to melatonin gummies, only when she has a really really tough couple days of not sleeping. Hopefully she will eventually stop having the nightmares. She purposely stays up as late as she can because she is so scared to fall asleep. 

Reagan turned 7 on October 15. Where has my baby gone? She is turning into a wonderful young lady. She is so artistic, funny and the most empathetic person I have ever known. Her favorite things to do are drawing, painting and playing Minecraft, Toca World and Roblox. 

Both kids wanted to be unicorns for Halloween. I am happy they tend to pick costumes that are warm because 99% of time, the temperature is really cold on Halloween.

We had a great Christmas and hope you all did too! Sorry, these  pictures are in no particular order...


Mommy and her love for matching jammies


We were at Target and Ray wanted her picture taken like this..lol

We like to go to the mall and see puppies (well Reagan does, I am too scared), play air hockey at the arcade and for some reason always take a pic on this bench. lol







Daddy took this pic of Joe playing in the leaves.

Grandma B took us to this cool train exibit.




Christmas Eve with Uncle George and Aunt Janet

Daddy took this pic of Reagan's butt, I mean Reagan bowling

Taking over Mommy's bed

Playing with Medes
This is how Reagan waiting for the bus one day

Carving pumpkins. I didn't want to carve one so Mommy carved a cat for me.(not pictured). Reagan carved a silly face


Happy birthday to Reagan!




Eddie helped Reagan fill out her Star Student of the Week posted. Lily thought it was boring.


Lily loves to play in paper bags and boxes

I made a cute little pumpkin tray in school. Mommy loves it. I decided to make it a holder for the fish food. Speaking of fish, we all cannot believe they are still living, a year later.


Happy Halloween!!





Reagan and Mommy were in heaven! Mommy's favorite breed of dog. They didn't just get to play with one puppy. They got to play with two!


This puppy wanted to play with me so bad. I don't like playing with puppies. They are cute but I just like to look at them.


Look at all of the tickets we won at the arcade!

Hard at work at school

Medes loves to lay on everyone!

Reagan likes to watch my videos for school with me.

Look, I actually have my hair down!


Reagan put her hairclips on her fingers


There's Medes, laying on Reagan again!

Our school pictures this year


"Grandma" Deb came by and brought crafts for us! Grandma Deb is a friend that Mommy used to work with about 13 years ago. We love hanging out with her.

Looking at Christmas lights!



 At the movies


Mommy always takes our picture by this tree

Don't let this picture fool you. Mommy took a video of Reagan playing with Medes.About 30 seconds after taking this pic, Medes slapped Reagan in the face and walked away :)


Merry Christmas!




Where is Reagan!?!

Lily received a new tunnel for Christmas




I am obsessed with My Little Pony (and Aphmau, a Minecraft character)

Reagan and Buddy hanging out

Happy New Year!!

So much confetti!



Reagan likes Aphmau too, in case you couldn't tell by the picture.